Surrogacy is a beautiful and complex journey that brings families together, but it’s also a topic surrounded by myths and misconceptions. Surrogates and intended parents (IPs) often face misinformation that can lead to unnecessary fears or misunderstandings.
In this post, we aim to debunk some of the most common misconceptions about surrogacy to help surrogates and intended parents feel confident and informed as they embark on this life-changing experience.
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1. Myth: Surrogates Only Do It for the Money
One of the most pervasive myths is that surrogates are primarily motivated by financial gain. In reality, most surrogates choose this path because they genuinely want to help intended parents achieve their dreams of parenthood. Compensation is certainly part of the process, but for many, the emotional reward of making a significant difference in someone’s life far outweighs the financial benefit.
Fact: The decision to become a surrogate is often driven by a desire to give the gift of life to those who cannot conceive on their own. Surrogates undergo rigorous screening to ensure they are fully prepared for the emotional, physical, and mental aspects of the journey.
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2. Myth: Intended Parents Have No Legal Rights Until After the Birth
Many people believe that intended parents don’t have legal rights to their baby until after the child is born. This myth can create anxiety for intended parents, as they worry about what happens during the pregnancy.
Fact: In most surrogacy agreements, intended parents’ legal rights are established long before the baby is born. Pre-birth orders are often secured during the pregnancy, ensuring that the intended parents are recognized as the baby’s legal guardians even before birth.
3. Myth: Surrogates Become Emotionally Attached and Won’t Want to Give Up the Baby
This is a common fear for both intended parents and surrogates. There’s a misconception that surrogates will form such a deep emotional bond with the baby that they won’t want to part with them.
Fact: Surrogates fully understand that the baby they are carrying is not their own. Surrogates already have their own children and have no desire to keep a child that is not genetically nor legally theirs. The psychological screening process ensures that surrogates are emotionally prepared for the journey. Many surrogates feel a sense of pride and fulfillment in helping another family grow and are excited to see the intended parents welcome their baby.
4. Myth: Surrogacy is Only for the Wealthy
It’s often assumed that surrogacy is only an option for wealthy families due to the high costs.
Fact: While surrogacy does involve financial costs, it’s not exclusive to the wealthy. Many intended parents save for years, seek financing options, or have family help with the cost of surrogacy.
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5. Myth: Surrogates Have No Control Over the Pregnancy
Some believe that surrogates are left out of decision-making once they sign a surrogacy agreement, feeling as though their voices won’t be heard throughout the pregnancy.
Fact: Surrogacy is a collaborative process, and the surrogate plays a crucial role in every step. Intended parents and surrogates work closely with medical professionals to make decisions that are best for the health of both the surrogate and the baby. Open communication between all parties ensures everyone’s needs and preferences are respected.
Conclusion
Understanding the truth behind these common misconceptions is key to navigating the surrogacy journey with confidence. Whether you’re a surrogate or an intended parent, being well-informed will help you feel empowered and secure in your decision. Surrogacy is a collaborative process built on trust, communication, and shared goals, and by debunking these myths, we hope to make this journey even smoother for everyone involved.